# Are some people predisposed to helping roles?

- **Episode:** [108](https://agents.truthliesandwork.com/episodes/108.md) (2024-06-20)
- **Type:** interview
- **Tags:** helping-roles, predisposition, caregiving
- **Time:** 21:09–23:29 (start 1269s)
- **Listen:** [https://truthliesandwork.com/108?t=1269](https://truthliesandwork.com/108?t=1269)

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[21:09] Dimple Dhabalia: The generational piece of this, um, and it doesn't even have to be trauma necessarily, but I do think, you know, in the book I talk a lot about our shaping stories. So these are the stories that again are created, uh, through our experiences, through what we are told. Um, and they become the lens through which we experience the world. And so You know, I think a lot of people that I have met over the course of my career that go into these kinds of professions of serving others have either had an experience where they were on the receiving end of being taken care of, or they witnessed other people doing this kind of work and it influenced their decision to, you know, to walk the same path. And so, I think there is a tie-in there
[21:57] Leanne Elliott: Yeah
[21:58] Dimple Dhabalia: And especially if you, you know, uh, if you yourself have experienced something, um, with my family, you know, I didn't know for a long time. I knew that my mom's side of the family had left Uganda, um, during the Idi Amin regime. And, uh, my family's Indian and he had expelled all the Indians. And my mom and most of her siblings and my grandparents got out before that happened, but a couple of my uncles ended up leaving as refugees. And so for many years, like, we knew that they had left Uganda and all that kind of, but I didn't know the refugee piece until much later. But there was something within me that kept drawing me back to wanting to serve in this position or in this way, working with asylum seekers and refugees. And so I think, you know, I think that there is, um, something there that kind of shows up in ways that you, you may not, you know, it's like more than meets the eye kind of that you don't necessarily realize like why you're being drawn to read this particular thing or to, you know, explore this particular, um, job path, you know. But yeah, I do think that they're related
[23:18] Al Elliott: This idea of shame is such a huge motivator. Leah, I always felt it was something more that men experienced, but I feel like I might actually be being a little bit sexist here