# Tip 1: Acknowledge the shock

- **Episode:** [201](https://agents.truthliesandwork.com/episodes/201.md) (2025-06-02)
- **Type:** other
- **Tags:** shock, emotional-response, coping
- **Time:** 7:39–10:39 (start 459s)
- **Listen:** [https://truthliesandwork.com/201?t=459](https://truthliesandwork.com/201?t=459)

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[7:39] Al Elliott: No, unfortunately. So, What we tried to do today is we sat down. This is Thursday's episode, which is probably going to come out Monday. We sat down over the weekend and we obviously cried our eyes out a little bit. We felt very sorry for ourselves. And then we were like, well, hang on a minute, what have we actually learned from this? And we looked back at what we did and we were kind of proud, love, weren't we, about how we dealt with this? And we thought, this is kind of like a really good, interesting way to talk about how resilience at work
[8:08] Leanne Elliott: Yeah
[8:08] Al Elliott: how you could build resilience at work, because this isn't sugarcoated. We're going to tell you exactly, you know, the low points. We're going to tell you the time that I think on Wednesday we sat down and drank about 4 beers in about an hour because we're in so much shock. Um, and, uh, which obviously is not a healthy coping mechanism. I don't recommend that. Um, but, um, yes, we're gonna go through. So we've kind of worked out there are sort of 8 things that we learned about ourselves over this period of time. And I think these 8 are tips in how you can build resilience in your work. And hopefully not something like this never happens to you where you literally are ripped, not literally, but metaphorically are ripped from your workplace and have to go and work abroad. Um, we are, we are, I mean, again, we're incredibly fortunate because it was last minute. Leanne managed to get this beautiful apartment just on the Bay of Kotor. In fact, I'll move out the way and see if the camera will focus on it. If you're on YouTube or Spotify Video, you'll be able to see a beautiful view in a second. Things could be worse. Um, you know, we are, we are lucky, but still, at the same time, this is not where we want to be. This is where a lot of people want to be, but this is not where we want to be. We want to be in our home in, in Herzegovina, um, in our beautiful studio with all our equipment, with all our books, with all our stuff around, with our 2 little dogs being idiots in the back garden. And we're not there
[9:28] Leanne Elliott: We're not. I can't say in all honesty that each of the, the tips we're going to give you, we were completely conscious of in the moment. Some we were because we've been in not the exact same situation, but similar situation in the past. And what Al and I are always, always conscious to do is when we've been through an event that feels big, feels like a lot, we sit and reflect and we reflect on The moment, how we reacted, what we did well, what we didn't, what we're proud of, what we'd want to do better in the future. And we've done that consistently, probably over the last 7, 8, 9 years
[10:07] Al Elliott: Mm-hmm
[10:08] Leanne Elliott: And I think it's this reflective practice that has subconsciously embedded these things in our psyche. So when we're faced with this situation, we, we react. Um, so this is our But these are our reflections over our most recent challenge, um, how we reacted to it, what worked. Some were conscious in the moment, others were not. But as I said, this is our reflection and hopefully some tips that we can give you to perhaps help the next time you're in a bit of a pickle